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Along with the family we were born and raised with, opportunities present themselves to meet, recognize and settle in with relationships you may refer to as “my people.” In no way does this diminish your family relationships; on the contrary, socializing with “my people” allows us to renew, restore and reconnect to our true selves with individuals not sharing our genetic coding. It’s common in family relationships to fall into our specific “roles” within the family dynamic. It’s our family identity, not necessarily chosen personally, but assigned to us by our father and mother or older siblings. Shifting in and out of family roles is not for the light-hearted. When you exercise your desire to step out of your role and attempt stepping into another family role, you may be observed by your family as “losing your mind.” (I speak from experience!)

Finding your “my people” group happens so naturally, like sliding your foot into a comfortable shoe. You just know you’re a good fit with individuals that allow you to be yourself. Both relationships serve a purpose. Our family relationship, good or bad, was our guiding principal throughout our formative years. As adults we began to search out “my people” during our college and career paths. Individuals may come and go in our select group but the core will remain the same: accepting, loyal, trustworthy and thought provoking. Thought provoking works in “my people” relationships because they’re challenging or causing you/me to think, especially about things we have not thought about before, thankfully without the judgment found in family environments. The sense of belonging and sameness found in “my people” is priceless for it’s ability to aid in balancing all of our other relationships. Freedom of expression is found unconditionally in “my people.”

Originally printed in the Bay City Tribune on April 24, 2016

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